Thursday, September 27, 2007

The Aesthete

ISFPs are gentle and compassionate, open and flexible. They are considerate of others and do not force their views and opinions on them. They often focus on meeting others' needs, especially those who are less fortunate. Having a quite, modest, self-effacing style, ISFPs avoid disagreements and seek harmony with people as well as with nature. They enjoy life's precious moments and often add a touch of beauty to the environments where they spend their time. They are at their best ensuing others' well-being.

Living

ISFP children are pleasant, quiet, and kind. Their talents may be easy to overlook because they shun the spotlight and do not have a strong need to demonstrate their strengths to others. They may be particularly drawn to people, animals, and plants who need the gentle care that ISFPs provide.

ISFP children generally relate well with others and tend to have friends because they are easy to like. They are interested in others's feelings and notice particularly when disharmony exists. It is quite difficult for ISFPs to see their friends in conflict with one another. When this occurs, they will try to help ease the disagreements by playing the role of peacemaker.

ISFP children notice and attend to the delights of the senses. Often they will make special gifts for people whom they particularly like. These gifts are usually unique and original, with much attention paid to color, line, texture, and form. They are often very conscious of the internal sensations in their bodies. They tend to be aware of what their body will and will not do.

As teenagers, ISFPs may blend into the woodwork because they are quiet and unassuming. They are oriented toward deeply felt personal values, and they may find themselves on the outside of social groups if the groups do not share the same values.

In adult life, ISFPs work quietly, often behind the scenes, helping individuals meet their goals and dreams. They like a life of action and interaction, and often choose careers that allow them to exercise their ability to see the needs of the moment and respond quickly. They have little desire to impress others or to impose their will. However, they can be gently and persistently persuasive if they believe some action is in another's best interest.

ISFPs enjoy their friends and their families, and spend time nurturing their relationships. They bring an air of spontaneity and easy acceptance to all they meet and are rarely quickly judgmental. Only when people do something grossly out of line will the anger of ISFPs surface. They will then stand firmly against the infraction to support the victim.

Learning and Working

ISFPs learn best through hands-on experience. They may not be as interested in traditional academic subjects as some other types. They prefer application and practicality rather than studying the theoretical and only potentially useful. Making drawings, constructing miniature models, or using other direct representations to master the subject matter are appealing activities for them. They dislike structure and institutional settings that take away their spontaneity and freedom. They want their learning to be relevant to what is going on in their world. They have less patience with conceptual and abstract learning.

ISFPs enjoy learning subjects that relate to helping and knowing about people. They may be easily overlooked in the classroom unless the teacher has recognized their special ways of learning and their unique contributions. Encouragement helps draw out ISFPs.

At work, ISFPs contribute by attending to the practical facts relating to the needs of people and all living things in their environments. They can infuse a particular knod of joy into cooperative nature. Because they pay attention to the humanistic aspects of the organization, they act in ways that ensure others' well-being. People enjoy ISFPs because they bring understanding yet adaptability to the realities of their work.

ISFPs enjoy occupations that allow them to be flexible and adaptable and to meet the here-and-now needs of others. They enjoy responding to the moment and choose work where they can offer practical, specific help in times of difficulty.

Some occupations are more appealing to ISFPs: Bookkeeper, carpenter, personal service worker, clerical supervisor and secretary, dental and medical staffers, food service worker, nurse, mechanic, physical therapist, X-ray technician, and other occupations that allow them to provide gentle help to all living things.

Loving

For the ISFP, love means devotion, loyalty, care, humor, and consideration for the needs and wants of the loved one. When ISFPs first fall in love, they may feel consumed by it. They may become naive and focus entirely on the romance of it - 'falling in love with love.' Future worries are cast aside in favor of the present realities. ISFPs may ignore all else in order to experience their love life most fully. Doing this can leave them vulnerable to the whims of others.

Because being loved and cared for is important to ISFPs, they make sure that relationships are nourished so that they can continue to grow. When They are in love, they find a multitude of ways to show their affection and their appreciation for the other person. Often ISFPs will go so far as to rearrange their careers, start or stop working, move geographically, or make other changes to maintain their relationships.

The friends, family members, and even pets of the ISFPs' partners become important to them as well. ISFPs take it upon themselves to make their environments places where there is the potential to have a harmonious existence for all.

In their desire to please others, some ISFPs may not be confident enough to speak up for themselves about what they need. If the relationship turns sour, the ISFP may believe that it was caused by something that they personally did. They may assume more of the blame than is necessary. When they are scorned, they may retreat and repeatedly analyse the situation internally. When they do face reality and finally let go, they can become more assertive and self-directed in the resumption of their lives.


Profile by David Keirsey

ISFPs are found in about 6 percent of the general population. The best name for this type is free spirit, for they have an intense need for freedom. The simple rural life, life in the wilderness, the tribal/communal life-all these may call them. Their need for social interaction, however, is not as great as that of the type they most resemble, the ESFP. So an ISFP may forgo all social ties of any duration to preserve the freedom to wander. The lyric, "I was born under a wandering star...", might capture the spirit of the ISFP in this respect. The flower children of the 1960's may have been largely ISFPs, though the ESFPs also seem attracted to communing with others.

ISFPs also resemble INFPs in needing to achieve intensity of feeling. The focus, however, with the ISFPs seems to be more on the sensuous side than the meaningful side. The ISFP is orgastic, in the sense, demanding of life that it provide the excitement and pleasure of drinking deeply at the Dionysian well. Not revelry (that is the forte of the ESFP) but experience is what attracts the ISFP to these kinds of activities. Music, like wine, is incorporated and internalized, and the introverted nature of the ISFP requires this internalization. There is a reason why the flower became the symbol for what the flower children wanted: Flowers are warm, alive, sweet, colorful, rhythmic, natural, absolute, needing no statement, no interpretation-a pure being-in-self.

ISFPs are not articulate. They communicate through action. They do not verbalize their meanings, but, for example, offer a lovely flower and a smile. Their actions speak of the pastoral and the bucolic.

Career

They do not seek philosophy or science or literature. These are too distant from life for the ISFPs. They seek, rather, the pounding surf, the river, the forest, the ship, the truck, the racing car, the horse, the potter's wheel, the hoist, the bulldozer-some kind of action where they can keep their fingers on the pulse of life.

Home

It is not that people are unimportant to the ISFP-indeed they are-but people are more the framework for the activities of the ISFP, providing a shadowy background. Perhaps this type is the least understood of all the types-and yet often the most envied (??!). They are so fiercely independent and insistent that they live in and for the moment, in action, fully savoring the urges they feel and discharge, that others often find them difficult to comprehend or understand. Gaugin, perhaps, provides a prototype of the ISFP as he walked away from his affluent position in society, off to Tahiti to an unknown future, and without a backward glance!

Midlife

At midlife ISFPs may be subject to strong temptation to follow Gaugin's lead, to abandon their current style of life, and sacrifice home, children, and mate for the lure of the unknown bucolic life. The cost of following this impulse must, of course, be reckoned. If the ISFP has not found in work a source of pleasure which continues past midlife, he or she may want to opt for an early retirement and enter into a new career where their need to be close to nature can be satisfied.




Negative point of view.


ISFP

disorganized, timid, prone to discouragement, socially uncomfortable, does not like leadership, suggestible, not self confident, not aggressive, lower energy, fearful, anxious, easily distracted, prone to discontentment, guarded, not confrontational, prone to longing for a stabilizing relationship, can be overwhelmed by unpleasant feelings, easily disturbed, fears drawing attention to self, prone to confusion, private, second guesses self, prone to quitting, underachiever, fears rejection in relationships, emotionally moody, prone to sadness, dislikes change, indecisive, modest, doubting, prone to laziness

favored careers:

sports management, pediatrician, school teacher, carpenter, veterinary technician, singer, health educator, stay at home parent, hospitality worker, pastor, athlete, physician assistant, photographer, health care worker, shop assistant, stylist, website designer

disfavored careers:

professor, marketing, academic, criminal psychologist, politician, comic book artist, actor, psychoanalyst, dj, judge, entrepreneur, attorney





Oh God.. it sounded so like me, helps to understand myself better... but i still don't know which career i'm interested in..



Introverted
Feeling with
Extraverted Sensing

STRENGTHS
ISFPs are warm, supportive and loyal to their friends and colleagues. However, being inner-directed, they may keep their great interpersonal warmth hidden from those they do not know well. Thus, they may feel most at ease when working with a small group of close, supportive colleagues. Using their Sensing function directly to perceive the known facts in a given situation, they will approach problems in a pragmatic, realistic and down-to-earth way. Having little interest in theoretical debate and discussion, they will be concerned to find practical solutions to concrete, real-world problems. Moreover, when addressing such problems, they will want to bear in mind the effects their decisions will have upon those around them. Independent-minded, they are tolerant and flexible, and do not like being regimented or rule-bound. Having a quiet sense of fun, they are accepting of other people¹s idiosyncrasies. Neither judgmental nor opinionated, they will not needlessly cling to traditional, out-moded ideas.

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
Being orientated towards the Introverted domain of feelings and mental events, ISFPs may sometimes need to be drawn out when in the company of others. Thoughtful and introspective, they may resist being the first to express their own views and opinions. Sensitive to others¹ feelings, they will not needlessly criticise colleagues in meetings and discussions. Understanding and considerate, they will be concerned about the welfare of others. They are likely to resist organising colleagues, preferring instead to work alongside people in an egalitarian manner. Disliking conflict and discord, they will work to resolve disagreements by actively seeking compromise and consensus. Not inclined to express their inner-most thoughts and feelings to people they do not know well, others may not always fully appreciate the strength of their deeply held core values and ideals. They will be at their best communicating on a one-to-one basis with colleagues who value their practical, open-minded approach to problems.

THINKING STYLE
Not inclined to engage in abstract debate and discussion, ISFPs are known for their pragmatic approach to solving problems. They tend to reject the purely theoretical, in favour of focusing on the known facts and practical realities in a given situation. However, their pragmatism and down-to-earth realism does not cause them to be closed minded, as they are open to new methods and ideas, particularly when they can see the practical advantages of adopting new approaches. Attuned to the feelings of others, they will carefully consider the impact their actions will have upon those around them before deciding on a course of action. Focusing on the 'broader picture', they may not always see the point of closely adhering to set procedures and systems. Similarly, attending to the detailed requirements of a task may not come naturally to them. Flexible, open-minded and tolerant, they will be concerned to understand others¹ points of view, even if these are radically different from their own.

HOW OTHERS MAY SEE YOU
Open and accepting of others, they will be supportive of their friends and colleagues. Quietly introspective, they are more likely to express their genuine concern for others through their actions, than through their words. Co-operative and egalitarian, they will be happy to help their friends and colleagues. Thoughtful and considerate, others may on occasion try to take advantage of their altruism and good-will. If colleagues try to take unfair advantage of their genuine offers of help, then this may generate feelings of resentment or even anger. Willing to listen, and sensitive to others¹ feelings, their colleagues will value the quiet support and encouragement they offer. However, their egalitarian style, and desire to manage by consensus may be misinterpreted by some as indicating an inability to take unpopular decisions. Modest, and not usually outspoken or opinionated, colleagues who are more assertive than them may at times mistakenly overlook their quiet, insightful observations.

Sunday, September 23, 2007

Lahs..


Enjoyed teaching, the 6 hours every sunday, though it's tiring.. one of the very few things that made myself feel useful.









Got this from ivan, try constructing a English sentence using 1-10.



Ah Lek was asked to make a sentence using 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9 and 10. Not only did he do it 1 to 10, he did it again back to 1.

This was what he came up with :.

1 day I go 2 climb up a 3 outside a house to peep. But the couple saw me, so I panic and 4 down. The man rush out and wanted to 5 with me. I run so fast until I fall 6 and throw up. So I go into 7 eleven and grab some 8 to throw at him. Then I took a 9 and try to stab him. 10 God he run away.

So, I put the 9 back and pay for the 8 and left 7 eleven.
Next day, I call my boss and say I am 6. He said 5, tomorrow also no need to come back 4 work. He also asks me to climb a 3 and jump down. I don't understand, I so nice 2 him but I don't know what he 1.

Thursday, September 20, 2007

Oh no..



woah, this is sooo disappointing.. why....

Wednesday, September 19, 2007

Move

2 Corinthians 6:1 (MSG):

“Companions as we are in this work with you, we beg you, please don't squander one bit of this marvelous life God has given us.”

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

5 loaves and 2 fishes

If I'm an artiste, i absolutely want to be like her - Corrinne May.. =)
she plays the piano, guitar; sings, composes the songs..

Beautiful song.

(lyrics & music only)


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Same Side of the Moon

I'm looking out the window
Where we sat to watch the stars
There's a chill within the air
It makes my heart long for your touch
You may be miles away
But as I kneel to pray

I see the same side of the moon
That we'll be looking on when the world turns blue
And know that time and space can't come between me and you
We share the same side of the moon
And though you'll never see all the tears shine through
I know I can't be that far from you
If we're both looking on the same side of the moon

I picture you across the ocean
In your corner of the world
I pray the wind will blow my voice
And gently whisper in your ear
Your night may be my day
And though the seasons change

It's still the same side of the moon
That we'll be looking on when the world turns blue
And know that time and space can't come between me and you
We share the same side of the moon
And though you'll never see all the tears shine through
I know I can't be that far from you
If we're both looking on the same side of the moon
I know I can't be that far from you
If we're both looking on the same side of the moon

Sunday, September 16, 2007

Little things

just came back from another church teaching drums.
this weekend is plain crazy, yet another one with schedule planning by the minute.


Gonna pray, to throw some baggages away, travel 'lighter' in the path in front of me.




Some of my students are young kids, adorable ones.
Their prayers are simple and so cute, maybe that's 1 reason why God loves them to bits.
They say a prayer before drum lesson, one girl said this, first sentence is:

"God, thank you that I'm able to sit here and pray.."


others are like..


"Jesus, we thank & praise you"

"Jesus, help me play drums, thank you, amen"
"Jesus, i need your strength to play drums."



When was the last time i needed God's strength just to play drums, or thank him that i can sit down on a chair and pray.. Seems like a long time ago.

The children helped me to see the little things - appreciation, pure sincerity and openness.
Those cute little human beings that i came to teach, taught me.. =)


i'll end this post with this, happened today:



this pretty doll-faced little student just cut her hair, straight crop again at the forehead and side, looks completely like an endearing Japanese doll. I jokingly said that if she would stand real still in the toy store, someone might just pick her up (mistaken her for a doll) to the cashier.

She smiled sweetly, had a short laugh and said (in mandarin):


"Then I would have to refrain from blinking." =)




When the ocean of people is magnificent and blinding, take time to appreciate the pearls of children.


somebody emailed this:

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.
Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.
Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr./Ms. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr./Ms. Wrong because your biological clock is ticking.
Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

Simplify your life.
Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities.
Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Say those words - Love You & I'm Sorry.
Don't let the moment pass. Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
It isn't true that life does not get easier with age. It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid.
Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.
Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!


"Do what you know and perception is converted into character."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Wednesday, September 12, 2007

Where is love..

Heaven to me, is musical. =)



Where is love?
Does it fall from skies above?
Is it underneath the willow tree
That I've been dreaming of?
Where is she?
Who I close my eyes to see?
Will I ever know the sweet "hello"
That's only meant for me?
Who can say where she may hide?
Must I travel far and wide?
'Til I am bedside the someone who
I can mean somethin' to ...
Where...?
Where is love?


Oliver Twist (1968)


"It's from watching these old movies that you realise how bad most modern ones are."


有一个故事 没有写完的故事
究竟逗号停留在哪里 记忆已模糊
只记得有一个故事 是没有写完的故事
谁来告诉我 那是怎样的故事
为何总是想不起 停顿的瞬间
是否还有人 愿意写完没有终结的故事
有没有这样的人 和我一同写
一个故事 童话般的故事 成了没有终结的故事
梦醒时 记得有一个故事
梦灭了 故事还没了结
能否给我一个机会 进入同样的梦 写同样的故事
让我自然醒转 写完这样故事


《你依然在》

当我忘记了 你曾给我的 你向我微笑
你给的一切 如繁星般 数算不尽
我的眼里 竟是苦毒与失丧的 曾经拥有
抱着遗憾 脚上踩着一根刺 我背着你远走
当我离开你的时候 是否让你忧伤
太多的过去 似乎已遗忘
美丽的回忆 逝去
黑暗临到 离了你 如羊走迷了路
听不见 你的呼声 我心已茫然
回头吧 回头吧
迷失的羊 落难的人 痛苦的人 忧伤的人
回头吧 回头吧
漫漫的长夜 无尽头的黑暗 陪伴空虚的心灵
回头吧 回头吧
脚下的那根刺 使我步伐艰辛
你的声音 由远而近

是谁 留下 那根刺
是你 就是你
不让我 走离了你
天父啊 当我回转 你依然还在
你所预备的 极其丰盛
主啊 求你领我 这悖逆的亡羊 归回吧



friend's friend wrote this, reminds me of me, the beauty of poems, and to remember to stay in touch with long-lost poetry.

Tuesday, September 11, 2007

Look ma, no limbs! (lesson in humility)

God made me took a lesson about it last week, when my students were quietly (but excitedly) discussing about the girl who came back from KL and played drums well. She only learned for about 1 yr, and just played loud and confident, nothing fantastic to shout about, but the students don't dare to say she's good in front of me, cos scared i become jealous..

what the??!! =/

1st thing that came into my mind is, if she's good, why worry that i'll be jealous? why would i be jealous? in the future when i'm not around she can teach you all lah, and i will be totally glad about it..


and.... do i play drums that badly that i pale in comparison to someone who only learned drums for 1 yr??
i know my students never really seen me play, or might think that my fancy stuffs are messy.. but.. am i that lousy?




then God whacked me..
"har, that's one proud boy you got there, vic."


i quiet down and reflected about this for a while, when riding my bike home.
yeah, someone has gotten too much in his head after 7 years.


so this week i started to lay the bricks of faith on top of each other rather than side by side, purposefully remember each acts of grace and wonder that God had done, and his faithfulness and kindness that pursues me daily..
And i see a clearer picture of what made me who am i today.




"look ma, no limbs.."
heh. some lame idea that popped into my head that if i'm forced to choose to lose either my limbs or my mouth. I might choose to lose my mouth. cos i think that sometimes i'm so quiet, i expressed better through drums. cos today i realised that most drum beats i play has a personal meaning or emotion behind it, heh.

Wednesday, September 05, 2007

patience & perspective

this guy from my class always spoil my day by being boastful, selfish, bitter & hypocritical.. can't stand his look and espcially his eyes and finger-pointing, as if the whole world owes him an audience, and an apology.

while i became frustrated with him, i was encouraged by an email devotion.. to not look at giants, but the one who is bigger than giants..
In kiddy ways, bigger than giant dream-crusher, giant day-spoiler, giant bad-chooser, giant feel-badder, giant do-slacker.... and stuffs..


oh, if u like fiction, or if you want to learn to appreciate fiction, this is a very good book, though not biblical, but really good..




put this article here to remind myself..


Practicing the Presence
by Max Lucado

How do I live in God's presence? How do I detect his unseen hand on my shoulder and his inaudible voice in my ear? A sheep grows familiar with the voice of the shepherd. How can you and I grow familiar with the voice of God? Here are a few ideas:

Give God your waking thoughts. Before you face the day, face the Father. Before you step out of bed, step into his presence. I have a friend who makes it a habit to roll out of his bed onto his knees and begin his day in prayer. Personally, I don't get that far. With my head still on the pillow and my eyes still closed, I offer God the first seconds of my day. The prayer is not lengthy and far from formal. Depending on how much sleep I got, it may not even be intelligible. Often it's nothing more than "Thank you for a night's rest. I belong to you today."

Give God your waiting thoughts. Spend time with him in silence. The mature married couple has learned the treasure of shared silence; they don't need to fill the air with constant chatter. Just being together is sufficient. Try being silent with God. "Be still, and know that I am God" (Ps. 46:10 niv). Awareness of God is a fruit of stillness before God.

just like jesusGive God your whispering thoughts. Through the centuries Christians have learned the value of brief sentence prayers, prayers that can be whispered anywhere, in any setting.

Imagine considering every moment as a potential time of communion with God. By giving God your whispering thoughts, the common becomes uncommon. Simple phrases such as "Thank you, Father," "Be sovereign in this hour, O Lord," "You are my resting place, Jesus" can turn a commute into a pilgrimage. You needn't leave your office or kneel in your kitchen. Just pray where you are. Let the kitchen become a cathedral or the classroom a chapel. Give God your whispering thoughts.

And last, give God your waning thoughts. At the end of the day, let your mind settle on him. Conclude the day as you began it: talking to God. Thank him for the good parts. Question him about the hard parts. Seek his mercy. Seek his strength. And as you close your eyes, take assurance in the promise: "He who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep" (Ps. 121:4 niv). If you fall asleep as you pray, don't worry. What better place to doze off than in the arms of your Father.

From Just Like Jesus
Copyright (W Publishing Group, 1998, 2001) Max Lucado

Spare me funny

good one after a long day..





is golf funny?